Why is it so hard for some of us to send our kids off to college? My girlfriend just dropped off her youngest of 4; however, her only girl, to college this weekend. She texted me that she was heartbroken when she left. I totally feel and have felt her pain, and wished there was something of comfort I could say. I just know from prior experience that the only real comfort out there is the child you just dropped off! About a week and a half ago, we brought my first son, (third born) to college for his senior year. Although I didn't cry when leaving, I did feel once again that unmistakable ache in my heart. When we got home, I couldn't help wandering into his room, so still, so empty. All summer it was so alive with all that is him. I picked up his pillow and just buried my head in it. We know that we'll see them soon, but why is it so hard???
As each of my three went off to college their first year, I spent a lot of time in their then empty rooms. I took great comfort in really straightening them; cleaning, dusting, looking through photos, crying some and laughing just as much. It was so therapeutic - somehow I felt closer to them and it made missing them just a little easier. And don't listen to those who tell you that you're crazy, after all you still have 1, 2, 3, etc. kids at home. Each child is different and your own, and it can hurt just as much.
And if it is your baby going off, after spending all that time in their room, read a book, or learn to knit or crochet, or start a blog! Call a friend that you haven't talked to in a while. Do something for yourself, something to validate YOU, And before you know it, that child that you love and miss so much will be home on a break, and you'll have lots and lots to talk about. Or you can just keep hugging them . . .
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